I call values high-level beliefs that determine what’s important for us. For example, if you value money above all else, you will probably have a lot of money. John Rockefeller, when his net worth was about 20% of the US GDP, was once asked, “You are the richest man in the world, what do you want now?” His response was: “More!”
Now you might think that money is very important for you. But you don’t have a lot of money, so you doubt the statement that your life is determined by your values. However, you might have hidden values that keep you from it. Such values might include beliefs such as “People who are close to God don’t value money” – plus a value that it’s important to be close to God. Or you might have a belief that says “Having fun is more important than hard work” – plus a belief that money only comes from hard work. Or how about this one: “My friends are important to me and if I had a lot of money, I’d lose them.” Or “Our relationship would change in ways that I wouldn’t like.”
This book has a complete value elicitation exercise. It takes about three days to complete and you’ll be able to do it just by reading and doing the exercises. Tony Robbins has a $10,000 workshop called Date with Destiny that is all about values. It’s about discovering what your values are and making sure they are right for you to give you the future you want. But you already have the exercise with this book. It’s one of the most common exercises that people skip the first time they go through the book.
Don’t be one of those people. It’s too valuable.
—Van Tharp, Moti-Maps: The Deﬁnitive Guide to Self-Propulsion and Getting Your Dream Life