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1. List secrets that you are keeping. (Hint: Look for anyone you are blaming, criticizing, feeling separate from; disapproving of; judgmental toward; angry at; or feel betrayed by.) The following kinds of questions can be helpful:
   • What would make people think less of you if it was revealed?
   • What is something you would not want _______________ to know about?
   • What do you feel, if revealed, would disappoint other people?
   • What would make ________________ disapprove of you?
2. For each response, describe the humiliation (resisted experience) from which you are protecting yourself or from which you believe you are protecting others. What have you created as a result of resisting it?

• Think about and identify your secrets and hidden agendas.
• Identify the beliefs that you associate with your secrets and hidden agendas.
• Realize that these beliefs are about you, not other people.
• Clear the charges from the beliefs (using some form of feeling release).
• Clear or change the non-useful beliefs.

• My mother was disappointed in me because I stole something. She would frequently tell me if I did that again, I would no longer be her son. So there was an issue with who I was at that point. This created the charge of abandonment.
• The worst part was returning the comics and admitting what I did to the store manager. I had imagined I would get punished or even thrown in jail. This belief created a charge of fear.
• And then there was the issue “What will others think of me if I tell them what I did?” I’d be so humiliated and I’d lose my reputation. The charge here was embarrassment.

• My mother will abandon me.
• Later in her life after my father and sister had died, she used to tell me “you are all I have.” That hardly sounds like someone who would stop caring about me. When she told me I wouldn’t be her son anymore if I stole again, that was just her way of trying to guide my choices. She died in 1993 and I could call that abandoning me but she is inside my heart whenever I want to visit with her.
• I will be punished.
• Well, my thoughts about what would happen were much worse that what actually happened. I don’t remember but I would guess the store manager thanked me and told me not to do that again. I wasn’t arrested or thrown in jail and I have never stolen anything else since that time.
• And what will others thing of me? Will I lose my reputation?
• Well, when I think back now, the riskiest thing I have ever done was publish Trading Beyond the Matrix. I worried that people might think that Van had gone off the deep end — and some people did think that. Overall, however, that book has helped attract people to us who were willing to work on their issues. As my friend Lee Coit used to say about the women in his life. “One third of the women in the world will like me; one third of the women will probably dislike me; and the last third will be indifferent. I think I’ll concentrate on the third who will like me.”

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